Breakups are rarely ever easy. Depending on what stage of a relationship you were in, breaking up can turn your entire world upside down. It can be difficult to keep a breakup from influencing other aspects of your life and sometimes it feels easier to give in to the heartbreak until it no longer hurts.
In general, we all try to be as strong as possible emotionally, but sometimes life will push you down and proceed to kick you while you're down there. The most important thing to do when these types of situations happen is to learn everything that you can from them. Breakups and heartbreak are no different. Here are seven things that heartbreak teaches you the hard way.
1. You can't lose sight of your happiness.
Focusing a lot of attention on your partner is common in committed relationships. The downside is that focusing that level of attention on someone else takes the focus of your goals and happiness. A breakup teaches you to have to find the right balance that fits your needs.
2. It's cliche, but time heals all wounds.
After a breakup, doing things that temporarily take your mind off of having your heart broken works in spurts, but the sadness will continue to return until you're completely over the situation. Everyone gets over heartbreak at a different pace, but truly reaching that point will take some time no matter who you are.
3. There's nothing wrong with being alone.
Being alone isn't the end of the world. In fact, once you get over the feelings of loneliness, it presents the best opportunity to get to know yourself on a deeper level.
4. Being bitter doesn't help.
In the end, harboring feelings of anger and bitterness only hold you back from moving forward. Even worse, it could negatively influence your future relationships. The sooner you let go of those feelings, the sooner the growth and recovery process begins for you.
5. You'll find love again.
You may have thought that person was your soulmate, but if the relationship has ended, take it at face value. It just wasn't meant to be. No matter how much you loved that person, you'll eventually fall in love again as long as you open yourself up to the possibility. Who knows? Your new love may just be the one.
6. You'll develop a breakup routine.
There are many ways to deal with heartbreak. Some people deal with breakups by hanging with friends while others isolate themselves. Implement whatever routine works to get you back to being yourself the fastest.
7. You're strong emotionally.
Enduring struggles proves to you just how emotionally tough you are. Build yourself back up once and you'll have the confidence to make it through any breakup.
8. What you won't tolerate in a relationship.
Once you've built yourself back up emotionally, it's a great time to reflect on your past relationship and use it as a learning experience. Experience gives you a better understanding of what you want and don't want in future relationships.
9. How to love someone while loving yourself.
Along with reflecting on what you don't want in a relationship, think about how you can be a better lover for both you and your future partner. Always remember that your needs are equally as important. At the end of the day, you are responsible for your happiness.