Let’s face it, every girl goes through some kind of phase where they crave the bad boy. The bad boy is exciting, a little dangerous, a bit of an a**hole, and we want the challenge of turning them into a good guy. We want to be able to say he’s ours, that he committed, that he changed for us, and that he treats us like a queen.
But hold up! While some people surely can change, you know just as well as I do that a lot of people do not. So why are you wasting your energy? Why are you putting yourself through the heartbreak of loving someone who doesn’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated?
Everyone wants to find someone who loves them wholly, for the person they are. Here's my (very strong) case for dating the nice guy.
1. He’s supportive of you.
Are you really involved in a cause? Do you volunteer in your spare time? Are you thinking of going to grad school? If you are working towards something that means a lot to you, it's always nice to have someone by yourself who will support you through it.
Of course, you have to believe in yourself and have the dedication, but it's definitely much nicer to have support than someone who argues with you or puts your opinions or dreams down. A nice guy will be supportive and never try and belittle your accomplishments. He'll also care, and not be all *whatever* about the things that mean a lot to you.
2. He’ll text back.
Are you looking for someone who actually has enough decency to not ignore you for hours or days, or until they just happen to feel like they want to text back? You're not something that a guy can just come around to when it's "convenient."
A nice guy will talk to you, and not necessarily only literally by texting you back, but when you need to talk to him about something, he'll be there, and when you do talk, he will listen.
3. He’s fully present.
You won't have to worry about him being on his phone, trying to hide his notifications about new Tinder matches, or trying to speed up a date so he can go hang with his friends.
He will be fully present with you, enjoying whatever you guys decide to do, from sitting on the couch and watching a movie, to going out to a bar and having a few drinks. They value the time you two spend together.
4. He will never put you down.
If you're dating or have a massive crush on someone who casually makes comments that put down your accomplishments, or other aspects of yourself, that's a red flag you're dating an a**hole. The nice guy will never say something that would knowingly hurt you, like putting you down for your weight, a health issue, accomplishments, your beliefs, and other parts of you.
He won't try and put you down if you get a better job or opportunity than him, in order to make himself feel better. He will genuinely be happy for you, make that known to you, and will never emotionally manipulate you in order to make you feel inferior.
5. He will try to resolve conflict.
Instead of storming out, becoming violent, screaming, or just saying "f*ck it" altogether, the nice guy will sit and actually try and understand the issue to help figure out how to fix it. It takes two people to work at a relationship, and the nice guy is willing to put in that effort.
6. He will commit.
You won't have to worry about whether or not he's cheating on you, because he won't be. He won't be one of those f*ckboys who sees multiple girls at once, or lie to you about only seeing you and then do things behind your back with other people. When he says he's off Tinder, he's off Tinder (if he even has Tinder to begin with).
When he says he wants to be with you, he means it, and you won't have to fight to convince him to want to be with you. If he cares about you, he'll commit to you and you only.
7. You’ll never feel neglected.
The nice guy is good at being there for the one he loves. When you're in trouble, sick, down, or need him for something, like emotional support or just a listening ear, he'll be there. You won't have to beg for his attention, he's ready to give you all that you need.
8. You can be yourself.
The best part about dating a nice guy is that you won't have to put on a persona to get him to like you. You can genuinely be yourself, goofy, silly, creative, ambitious —whatever it is you are. You don't have to kill yourself to look as thin as his ex-girlfriend. A nice guy will love you for who you are as a person.
9. You’ll be each other’s best friend.
Chasing the f*ckboy gets old, and at some point you want someone who can do really cool, fun, romantic things with. When the bad boy is out running around, you'll have a boyfriend who will also become your best friend.
As you two date and become closer, you'll learn that you can be yourself, you can laugh together, cry together, share secrets, make fun of each other, and watch your relationship grow, knowing that he'll be right there beside you.
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