Breakups can be hard, and they can leave you emotionally drained and physically unwell. We often neglect our bodies and minds when we are going through a rough patch following a breakup, but it’s important to remember that we need to find some sort of balance between mourning our relationship and also being able to take care of ourselves.
It’s important that we deal with our emotions about a breakup, and not neglect them. Brushing feelings under the rug isn’t healthy and can lead to some serious consequences. At the same time, we also want to make sure we get enough sleep, eat healthy, and take time to do the things that bring us joy, whether it be painting, going for a run, or going back to school.
Here are seven ways to get yourself back on your feet feeling healthy and balanced in no time.
1. Plan a day of all the things you love.
This might not happen right away--you might need some time to deal with the emotions you’re feeling about your breakup. Maybe it’s sadness or anger, or frustration. After letting the emotions settle for a few days, try and plan a day of all the things you love. It could go something like this:
9:00 am - Breakfast at your favorite diner or restaurant
11:00 am - Trip to the art museum
1:00 pm - Pick up a sandwich and head to the beach
5:00 pm - Yoga at your favorite studio
7:00 pm - Go to that movie you’ve been dying to see
9:00 pm - Enjoy a glass of wine and a bath at home
Perhaps you’d want something a little more exciting, or maybe you’re looking to just try and relax. Whatever it is, just make sure your day is full of all the things that make you happy. The important thing for this day is to make sure you go to these places alone, for you have to learn to be okay with being by yourself before you can truly move on from the breakup and into a new relationship.
2. Pick up the hobby you let fall by the wayside.
Many times we find ourselves compromising our time that we could typically have set aside for the things we love, like painting a drawing, or even just coloring in an adult coloring book. Maybe we want to work on a side project, like starting an Etsy shop. School and work get in the way, and then adding in a relationship can really make it difficult to do these things, so make sure you take this window of time to get back into the hobbies you miss.
3. Try and get some sleep (but not too much).
Breakups can make us restless. We’re emotional, and full of sadness or anger, and many other thoughts and feelings. What could I have done better? Is it my fault? We start filling our heads with negative thoughts that make it difficult to relax and sleep, but sleep is essential to our well-being and is the time when our bodies do the most repair. Relaxing and sleeping is crucial during this time.
Try taking a hot bath and then lay in bed and read a book. The cool down period that occurs after your temperature rises from being in a hot bath will relax you and have you sleeping like a baby.
Too much sleep, however, can have negative effects on the body including increased risk of depression and heart disease.
4. Sip on some sun and sea.
Taking a trip to the beach is great, as being in the sun can help boost your mood and make you feel happier, and it can also be relaxing (and you’ll get a nice tan, wink!). Listening to the waves can also be relaxing and going for a dip will feel good to balance out the heat. Being out in nature allows for us to feel more centered, so take some time out of your day to sit under some rays and go for a dip.
5. Eat fresh, whole foods and ditch the ice cream.
Your first instinct might be to indulge in some freshly baked brownies or a bowl of your favorite ice cream, but you might want to think twice about that. Sure, you should indulge a bit, but you don’t want to put on the pounds and you certainly don’t want to be compromising your health during this difficult time. Since we might be already neglecting our bodies by sitting around and moping, not exercising, and not getting enough sleep, it is important we eat healthy to keep essential vitamins and nutrients on par.
Stick to fresh, whole foods, and steer clear of junk and processed foods like chips and cookies. In fact, you might want to even throw in a daily vitamin to make sure your immune system doesn’t get weak, which could lead to you getting sick. Being heartbroken and ill doesn't mix very well, so let's try and keep that under control.
6. Take up yoga or meditation (for just a few minutes!)
Try this five minute yoga sequence for a quick blast of stress relief or download Headspace for your smartphone, an app that has 10 minute meditation sessions for free . Setting just a few minutes aside each day for some relaxation can be great for the mind and body during your breakup, and will help get rid of negative feelings and thoughts. If you really enjoy yourself, feel free to take a longer yoga class or meditation session.
7. Spend time with your circle of friends.
At first you might just feel like staying inside and crying or watching TV, but at some point you might need to actually get out and start socializing again. Don’t force yourself too much, but do give yourself a loving nudge towards the people closest to you who you know will be there for you and help you through this time. Social isolation can lead to feeling tired and sluggish, increase your risk of chronic illness like heart disease or diabetes, feeling sick more often (such as getting the cold and flu), and an increased risk of depression.
After a little while, try getting back on your feet with a coffee date with your best friend or a family member, or maybe trying to go to lunch with a group of your friends. Being out and surrounded by those who love you will do wonders for your heart. With their help, you’ll be feeling better in no time.
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