Getting married is one of the biggest steps that a person can take in life. “Til death do us part” is a very powerful statement that should not be taken lightly, and hopefully the death part doesn't happen anytime soon. Since you'll be spending the rest of your life with that person, be sure you are making the right decision.
Being in love with the person you're planning to marry is likely the main reason that you want to tie the knot in the first place. Love is key, but it isn't the only thing that matters. There are several other questions that you may want to ask yourself before you say, “I do.” Be honest with yourself because you are the only one with all of the answers.
Do we have fun together?
The last thing you want to do is become bored with your relationship. Things should be kept interesting for the both of you.
Do we accept each other?
You don't have to accept anything that you don't want to, but acceptance is the key to a long-lasting relationship. No one is perfect, so will you be able to accept the person you love even through his or her flaws?
Am I happy in this relationship?
At the end of the day, you are responsible for your happiness. But does your partner contribute to your overall happiness? Every single moment in a relationship isn't going to be filled with sunshine, but if you're happy being with that person even when things aren't perfect then you're on the right track.
Is this relationship good for me?
Just because you love someone doesn't mean you're meant to spend the rest of your life with that person. Does being with the person help you be the best person that you can be? Do you and that person make good life partners to take on all of the ups and downs that life will throw at the two of you?
Is this relationship balanced?
Each person has to be fully committed to the relationship and contribute a stable balance of whatever is needed to make things work. A balance of friendship, love, and everything else that goes into a relationship makes it a give and take partnership. Things should never feel one sided.
Do I trust my partner?
Trust is the foundation of any relationship. If you can't blindly trust your partner then you will want to put off marrying that person until you can. Trust isn't only about being faithful. You have to trust this person to have your back in every way possible.
What does my gut say?
If you have doubts about the person you're with, especially after you've known that person for a long time and understand their personality, it's likely better for you to trust your gut feeling. Listen to your instincts.
Why am I in this relationship?
This question should be the easiest one for you to answer in a long-term relationship. Never allow yourself to feel trapped in a relationship for any reason. We choose to be a couple, but why? Why do you love? Are you there because you want to be? Would you rather be alone or with someone else? If something like a financial situation changed, would you still love this person unconditionally?
Where is our relationship going and are we growing?
Living in the moment can be loads of fun, but part of having a successful marriage is about building a stable future together. Make sure your future goals and aspirations align with one another. Planning for the future together will help you and your partner figure this out. Great couples help each other grow in every area of life, together and as individuals. If you don’t see that happening you really should reconsider who your partner is or if now is the right time for you to get married.