Ahh, summer- the time of the year that we most associate with the beach, day drinking, watersports, no school, and break ups. Yes, break ups. Maybe it's a bug in the air, maybe it's a longing to break free from whatever's tying you down- office duties, time restrictions, clothing. Whatever it is, when temperatures rise, commitments crumble. Case in point, Taylor and Calvin, Gigi and Zayne, and now Demi and Wilmer.
If you fall into the above category and you’re worried your summer won’t be all tanned legs, frosty pina coladas, and bikinis, I’m here to let you know that it will be. The summer can be just as magical (if not more!) when you’re riding solo, so here are seven ways you can have a great breakup season, one that will leave you feeling happy, radiant, and recharged for the fall.
1. Try surfing or paddleboarding for the first time.
Summer is the absolute perfect time to indulge in watersports, even if you've never tried them before. Surfing and paddleboarding are great exercises, plus getting to work out in the water is much more refreshing than going out for a run and drowning in your own sweat.
Look at trying a new water sport as a challenge to step out of your comfort zone and try something new. You might not be too great at it at first, but dedication and perseverance will allow you to see it through, and you won’t be thinking about your ex while you’re riding out the waves.
2. Attend a conference or workshop.
Do you have an interest that you kind of “put aside” while you were in your relationship? Many of us experience difficulty balancing relationships with our careers, so now that you have more "you" time, take advantage and shift back into career mode with a conference or workshop. These are spaces where you can go to hone your skills, whether it be blogging or coding, criminology or real estate. Some great conferences to look into are the Forbes Women's Summit, IEEE World Congress on Computational Intelligence (WCCI), and the Writer’s Digest Annual Conference.
3. Pick up that project you’ve left behind.
Ever wanted to plant a garden? Start up an Etsy shop? Redecorate your apartment? Start working on a book? Now is the time to do it. As I said, many of us fall into the problem of not giving ourselves enough time to work on our personal goals because we get involved with a partner and try to be dedicated to our relationships at the same time. Take some time now to get involved in the projects you’d like to see materialize into reality.
4. Put together grad school applications.
Have you been toying with the thought of going back to school? After a breakup, we tend to feel down, upset, frustrated, or maybe even angry. We beat ourselves up and wonder if it was something we did or whose “fault” it was. We allow our heads to fill with many other negative thoughts. Instead, take this time to think about your future and where you would like to see yourself in the next few years. Graduate school applications can be tedious, with essays and statements of need for financial aid. You might also need to take the GRE or GMAT to get into the program, so now is a good time to study for it and book your testing date ASAP.
5. Treat yourself to a new hairdo or a massage.
Breakups can be rough, so treat yourself to a hairdo or massage. Some people find a new look to be cathartic, like going from long hair to short hair, or changing color. If you’re not looking for change at the moment, try a massage, which can help detox the body and relax you.
6. Pick up a workout regimen.
After a breakfup, we might start to slack off in terms of taking care of ourselves, and that isn't healthy. If we let our emotions get the best of us, we start sacrificing sleep, which is when the body really repairs itself. We also might start putting on weight. Even if you don't go through the latter, it's good to get into a workout routine so that you can a) look really good (wink, wink), b) take care of your health, and 3) use it as time to clear your head and get rid of any stress.
7. Start eating healthier and getting more sleep.
This is probably the most important aspect of this list. If you’re having trouble sleeping, and OTC sleeping medication like NyQuil or Unisom might help, then try Calms Forte, a more natural alternative. A hot bath with epsom salts can help you sleep, as well as lavender pillow spray and calming tea. Try putting away your phone an hour before you go to bed and swap it out for a book.
In terms of food, our initial response might be to go for that ice cream or glass of whiskey to help us deal with the sadness. Opt for green juices, fruit shakes, and healthy foods instead. The nutrients in these foods will help you feel better through the healing process.
The most important thing to remember is that a breakup could be a blessing in disguise. Use the summer to become the best person you can be, whether you go after your career goals, side projects, first or second degree, summer bod, or your own personal TLC. After all, the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself.
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