Entering the college world is an exciting and sometime overwhelming time in life, especially for someone that is more than likely living away from home for the very first time. Speaking from personal experience, I’ve seen the new-found freedom be the death to even the most passionate students.
While adjusting to college you'll be experiencing a plethora of new things. It’s completely understandable that you may feel the urge to want someone that you can share these moment of your life with. Or maybe you're feeling homesick and want someone there romantically to comfort you. Either way, you can have a love life and still be a dedicated student. It's all about balance. Here are a few tip's that can assist you with keeping focused.
College life is an experience like no other, but it’s as good or as bad as you make it so take full advantage of these moments. You’ll need these memories to keep you sane when the real reason you're in college in the first place gets tougher.
Don't Look For Love
Embrace love if it just happens to find you, but refrain from actively seeking deep emotional connections. Love requires extra time and energy that you could be repurposing to your education and other personal goals. Be wary of allowing toxic relationships to evolve. Those can be especially draining and you don’t need the drama.
Commit To What Works Best For You
Let the relationship and all of it’s moving parts work around your schedule when it’s convenient for you. This sounds selfish, but you're being selfish for a good cause. I’m not saying don't ever compromise, just do so only when the compromise won't negatively influence your academic well being. If you can't make the time or that person doesn't have the patience to deal with you putting your education first, it wasn't meant to happen at this time in life.
Find Someone That Respects Your Goals
Respect is key in every aspect of any relationship. If someone can genuinely respect your goals, more than likely they won't mind helping you reach them if a deeper relationship happens to evolve later on. In a sense, he or she already is helping you reach your goals simply by respecting your choice to put those things first. Keep people like that close because they want to see you win.
College life is full of adventure. It’s also the perfect time for you to explore the world around you as well as yourself. Knowing yourself helps you build stronger relationships with partners. At the very least, an idea of who you are as an individual has to be established before you can engage in a successful committed relationship.
Spend Time Enjoying College Life Separately
Scheduling some time apart from your boyfriend or girlfriend is all about maintaining a level of self awareness, staying in tune with your personal goals, and focusing on who you are as an individual. Use this time to decompress and do what you enjoy the most.
Remember That Education Is Your First Love
The only reason that you are in college is to get an education. Anything outside of that is an extracurricular activity. Don’t allow focusing on a relationship to interfere with your future. Love will eventually find you.