Moving into this article, keep in mind that I’m not a psychologist or love guru. I’m simply speaking from experience; a lot of it. I can’t speak on behalf of everyone on the planet when it comes to why I find it difficult to be faithful, but most people may be able to relate. Notice I said difficult, not impossible. Contrary to popular belief, all men aren't dogs, and all women aren't innocent. Gender doesn't matter as much as we attempt to pretend it does, but it does play a large part in the reasoning behind our unfaithfulness. Women tend to cheat for emotional reasons, where men predominantly go outside of their relationships for physical reasons. Again, not a psychologist here, just speaking on what I've witnessed in myself and those around me.
I didn't start romantic life with the intent to be a complete asshole. I had aspirations of being a good guy before I met my very first girlfriend, but it blew up in my face numerous times. After getting my heart broken over and over by the same person, I adopted a new mentality that became a double-edged sword. Protecting my heart worked to perfection when in relationships with women that were playing games, but it broke the hearts of women that actually cared for me. Despite what I had convinced myself to believe, I do have a conscience.
That last paragraph wasn't meant to be an excuse for my inexcusable actions. I can admit that I was a complete asshole to quite a few women. I cheated in relationships for the simple fact that I was selfish. There were points in my relationships that I made serious efforts to become a good guy again. I'd do good for a while in new relationships, but would eventually give in no matter how hard I tried to fight the urge to cheat. After botching one relationship after another I felt the need to discover the root of my problem. I stayed single for a long time in an effort to find what I want and need in order to be faithful in a relationship.
The main problem is that I wasn't mentally ready for a relationship. Successfully maintaining a committed relationship requires a lot of time, effort, and emotional energy. Having too many distractions going on in my life to be mentally committed to a relationship was a huge problem for me. I was so young and still figuring myself out. Not because those people weren't absolutely wonderful, but how could I be sure of what I want from a person if I wasn't even sure of what I wanted from myself. Some people tend to fall into relationships that they truly aren't vested in.
When you truly are in love with someone you don’t want to do something that will jeopardize your relationship because you value the connection you share. The last thing you want to do is be responsible for causing that person heartache, especially by doing something that you have the power to prevent. Finding the person that makes me feel this way, along with being mature enough to understand the responsibility of handling something as delicate as a heart, made being faithful easy for me.