I will tell you a little about my journey. I always dreamed I would breastfeed my child as long as I could. I've seen so many beautiful and amazing journeys through the bonding and comfortIng experience that it is. I breastfed my first daughter until she was 6 months old, and I loved all of it. It was our time together, so special...and no one could take that from me. I got pregnant when she was 2 months old and by the time she was almost 6 months old, my milk was gone, dried up, like, it disappeared. I felt my heart shatter, and the guilt consumed me. We had to start bottle feeding and I thought our bond would disappear and that she would think I was not providing for her, until it hit me: nothing had changed. It was still our time, she'd still grab my hair and smile at me with her eyes. She was so happy. Fed. Loved. Now I breastfeed my youngest, but the comfort of knowing that if life throws me a curved ball and I have to stop, or even if I decide to stop, she will be ok. Feeding them is beautiful. Providing for them, seeing them gain weight, grow and smile and be milk drunk makes my heart jump in happiness. So I don't know about your journey, but I can tell you that whatever your choice or circumstance, don't ever feel guilty or like you are inadequate. Ever. Just love them and do the best you can. You're a rockstar. No. Matter. What. Whatever your feeding routine consists of, it is hard being a mother, so let's show support for each other! To me, fed is best. . . Dress by @milkmademarket Braid by @madisonbraids
Moms do it all, and they get a lot of sh*t for it. Why? Because people suck sometimes, and for some reason, everyoen thinks know how to raise your baby better than you. One hot topic of conversation is breastfeeding. How long to breastfeed, the pros and cons of breast milk versus formula, and everything in between is somehow up for discussion when it comes to your child. Maya Vorderstrasse, a New Jersey mom of two baby girls less than a year apart, took to Instagram to express how she felt about mom-guilt and breastfeeding. What she had to say will make you slow clap, yell “YAAAAS,” and continue feeding your baby however you want to, no matter what people say.
Vorderstrasse had a lot to say about her breastfeeding journey, particularly because she got pregnant for the second time when her first daughter, Zoey, was only two months old. Four months later, when Zoey was six months old, Vordestrasse’s milk was “gone, dried up, like, it disappeared.” She said it made her feel incredibly guilty because she thought the bond she’d created with Zoey would disappear, and that Zoey would “think I was not providing for her.”
When she started bottle-feeding Zoey, she realized her fears were for nothing because Zoey was still a happy baby. “It was still our time,” Vorderstrasse wrote, “she’d still grab my hair and smile at me with her eyes. She was so happy. Fed. Loved.”
Now she breastfeeds her youngest, Hazel, who was born just days before Zoey’s first birthday. She wrote about how reassured she feels that if she were to ever have to stop breastfeeding Hazel, the baby would be just fine. They are still getting fed, and seeing them grow is what’s important.
“So I don’t know about your journey,” she writes, “but I can tell you that whatever your choice or circumstance, don’t ever feel guilty or like you are inadequate. Ever. Just love them and do the best you can. You’re a rockstar. No. Matter. What. Whatever your feeding routine consists of, it is hard being a mother, so let’s show support for each other.”
If you have 1, 2, 3, even 7 children, pregnant or thinking about it, I want to encourage and lift you up. My parents left to return to my home country and my husband went back to work. I found myself on my living room floor crying and begging God for strength. There were 2 screaming children who needed me, ALL OF ME. I gave myself 30 seconds of vulnerability, and decided that after that, I WOULD SIMPLY DO IT. I put the little one in the carrier, the older one in the stroller and left the house. I walked, walked and walked. All the way I kept envisioning my life 1 year from now, and how different things will be then. I kept repeating to god: "I can do this. I am going to do this. You are going to help me." Over and over. When I came back home, there was no scream that came from them that discouraged me. SO YOU, tired, exhausted, sad, depressed, fragile mother who is struggling, take the DEEPEST breath of your life, and DO NOT allow the chaos and fear TO PARALYZE you and keep you from living the best life you possibly can. So let's make motherhood AWESOME. IF I CAN DO THIS, SO CAN YOU! 💛 . . My @nativewilds Nests are EVERYTHING. They serve as breastfeeding covers, cart covers, blankets, and they have UPF 50... WIN! 😍
Vorderstrasse told ABC News that one night she had just breastfed Hazel and started preparing Zoey's bottle, when she started to think about her breastfeeding journey.
"It was such a powerful memory and I felt so grateful to be at a good place today," she said. "I thought that it was not possible that other women weren't going through this. I had the idea of posting a picture that represented my journey, so other mothers would know that they will be OK, and to not waste time feeling bad about their feeding choices." Her picture has been liked over 11,000 times.
Every new mother’s circumstances are different. Some mothers may be unable to breastfeed for emotional reasons, psychological reasons, and even physical ones, like too much pain or not enough milk production. None of those reasons, or any other reason, is synonymous with being a good mother. You can mother a child just as well formula feeding as you can breastfeeding.
Society seems to think that breastfeeding moms are superior to bottle feeding moms because breast milk contains cells, hormones, and antibodies that help protect babies as they grow. Even the U.S. government website on women’s health lists more points about the benefits of breastfeeding than it does about the benefits of formula. In fact, it lists many reasons why formula is worse, saying it’s more expensive, and that life can be easier when you breastfeed because you don’t have to sterilize anything.
The decision to breastfeed or not is an extremely personal one, and there are many things to consider. Don’t let anyone ever bully you forcing something that doesn’t feel right. You know what’s best for your baby, period. At the end of the day, they’re going to be fed, and as Vorderstrasse says, “Fed is best.”
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