Expert Says: Love Has 5 Stages, But Most Of Us Get Stuck And Leave In The 3rd One

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Those who have been in love or had their fair share of romance know that love has several stages. Some are more intense and happy, while others more dramatic and realistic. In an article written for MenAlive, psychologist Jed Diamond says that love has exactly 5 stages, but most couples get stuck and leave in the third one. Check out what characterizes each of them:

How do the 5 stages of love work

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Stage 1- Passion: That moment when everything in the relationship seems like a bed of roses, especially because hormones that give us a feeling of happiness and well-being flood us.

Stage 2 - Commitment: When the couple realizes that passion has made way for a deeper love. It is that moment of joy and satisfaction, self-knowledge and acceptance, when both of you start envisioning even stronger bonds and the possibility of building a family together.

Stage 3 - Disillusionment: According to the expert, it is the stage when people feel the need to get out of a commitment and when most relationships come to an end. Couples may reach the stage gradually or suddenly and small flaws may become unbearable. Annoyance and frustration end up taking the place of happiness and intention of moving forward. Couples that decide to stay together can still experience two other stages.

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Stage 4 - Real love: This is the stage when the couple manages to overcome all the problems and issues brought on by the third stage and realize that, despite the fights and frustration, their feelings for each other are strong and worth fighting for. At this stage, partners unite for a common good and support each other. This results in the true understanding of what it is to love yourself and be loved.

Stage 5 - Transformation: The stage of a broader and more humanitarian love. When romantic couples establish that spending a life together makes them happy and that, together, they can even change the world. This is the phase when they understand that, if they can overcome adversities for a greater good, the same concept can be applied to create a better world.

Translated article original published on VIX Brazil, by Paulo Nobuo.