Moving in with your partner is a huge step in your relationship that shouldn't be taken lightly. It's a fun time that can also be trying at some points as the two of you learn each other. Living under the same roof has the ability to draw you closer than ever or tear you apart.
It's true that you never really know a person until you live together. Once you move in with your partner, your romantic relationship also becomes a business relationship. Before you take that step, ask yourself these questions to be sure that moving in right now is best for you.
Why should we move in together?
Is there a need pressuring you to make this move? Are you doing it for financial reasons in order to cut costs by splitting bills with your partner, or is your partner peer-pressuring you to move in? Moving in has its benefits, but you should only do it if you really love your partner. Otherwise, things could blow up in your face.
What can I afford?
Before you and your partner begin to seriously consider cohabiting it's important to know what each of you can handle putting out financially. It will serve you well as a couple to stay well within your budget. Unfortunately, bad things can happen. Your partner could be out of work and the financial responsibility could fall on your shoulders for a period of time. Just in case, you'll want to be able to keep the both of you afloat until things get better.
Can I trust my partner?
No relationship can be successful without trust. You need to be able to trust your partner to have your back emotionally and financially. Both of you have to have this mutual trust regardless or what happens in your relationship. If there is any doubt, don't move in together because he could abandon you for his own needs at any moment.
Are we together for the foreseeable future?
If you have doubts about your relationship lasting at least until the end of a lease period, you're wasting your time. Moving in together will make it much more difficult for a clean break if the relationship ends.
Is my partner financially responsible?
Moving in together means that the two of you now have a financial responsibility to one another and your partner must hold up their end of the bargain. If your partner is frivolous with money it could affect you. Behind infidelity, financial struggles is one of the top reasons that couples call it quits.
Will I be able to save?
Living paycheck to paycheck and just having enough money to cover your bills without the ability to stash a few bucks away makes life very uncomfortable. The last thing that you want to do is hurt your ability to help secure your financial future, especially if it could have been avoided.
Am I willing to compromise?
Living with someone requires you to constantly compromise. You're constantly sharing space and time so, there has to be a lot of give and take on both ends to cultivate the most enjoyable living experience. Being unwilling to compromise will lead to arguments that could ultimately lead to the end of your relationship.