Many of the strong bonds of friendship that we build begin to develop throughout our childhood and really blossom during the teenage years through early adulthood. Once we creep past the college years making friends, good ones anyway, seems nearly impossible.
Honestly, even making friends when we were younger wasn't as simple as you remember it. It took some time to build the bond with your friends that stick around long-term. The difference is that we tend to overthink and complicate our relationships. Keep in mind that everyone isn't meant to be your best friend.
Each friend plays a specific role, but here are seven questions you should ask yourself before you call someone a friend.
Can I trust you?
Trust is a key element of every type of relationship. If there is no trust, there is no possible way to build a positive connection.
Is this friendship mutually beneficial?
Friendships should always be mutually beneficial. You should never ask your friend to do anything that you wouldn't reciprocate.
Do we have each other's best interest at heart?
Friends genuinely want to see their friends be successful. If you're not happy for your friend's prosperity, you're not a real friend.
Does this person gossip?
If your friend is constantly gossiping to you about other people, chances are you are the topic of conversation when you're not around.
Is our friendship lopsided?
You should never feel as if your friend is taking advantage of you. If you do, it should be addressed politely.
Could this friendship hurt me in any way?
If your friendship influences you to do things that will bring you down or promote a lifestyle that is unhealthy for you, you should reevaluate how much time you spend with that friend.
Is my friend as ambitious as I am?
If your friend is a total party animal and you are career oriented, this friendship probably isn't the best match. You can still be friends and help balance each other out. That person's role could be to show you a good time, and your role could be to help your friend be more ambitious.