From before the child is born a father's job is never done. You can't clock out and there is no PTO. At the core, fathers are providers of love, emotional support, financial stability, and any other area that we can be of assistance. The fact that you're responsible for the life and wellbeing of another human being doesn't really hit you until you look into your child's eyes for the first time.
Learning that you're going to be a father for the first time produces so many mixed emotions that tend to vary depending on what space that particular man is at in life. For the most part, it's happy news even when things aren't perfect, but it can simultaneously be the most daunting task that a man faces.
The moment I knew that I was going to be a father, my first thought was how do I maintain the best relationship possible with her mother in order to provide the best nurturing environment. We weren't together! My biggest fear was not finding the right balance of being a father and provider.
With my thoughts being so profound, I couldn't help but be curious about what was on the mind of other fathers their first time around. I asked around a bit, and here are the best answers I heard.
Manny Borges said, "My first thought was happiness and joy. As far as my biggest fear goes there were/are many. Would I be a good dad, would I be able to provide for them properly, am I be raising them to be good people?"
Rafael Garcia said, "My biggest fear is health, you want healthy kids. That's the one thing you fear or I fear the most. My first thought was more than a thought it's an attitude. I didn't become a father until I saw my daughter for the first time, before that I didn't understand the magnitude, but after I saw her, a switch went on in my mind and everything changed, forever."
Eric Lappin found out that he was going to be a father when he and his wife were coming to the United States from Cuba. "The first thing I thought was, 'we have to go the extra mile.' My biggest fear as a father is that my son won't be a good man. I'm particularly afraid of him doing drugs."
Many fathers have similar thoughts and fears. Maybe you can relate.